Why Everything is Your Fault

Someone close to me said something this morning that got me to laughing so hard the back of my neck hurt.

It wasn't because it was so funny – it was because it was so sad that you just had to laugh.

A dear friend of mine – and when I say dear friend, I mean we are family; stuck with us, can't wash us off family – is so upset and miserable in the marriage right now that there is consideration to start taking medication to "take the edge off" so that emotions aren't so raw and protect against getting into arguments.

Rather than "face the music" and say or do what has to be done to address the problems, there was actual consideration to taking pills instead and just riding it out until things get better.

When this was said, I just started laughing.  I asked, "Don't you think that there is a major communication problem if you'd rather take pills then talk to your spouse."

Thank the lucky stars that the other party laughed with me and agreed.  We still haven't gotten to the point where there is going to be a discussion – but at least there won't be any medicating being done.  If this person would have turned to medication, that would have been giving power away to a pill.

(Yes – there are some cases where there is clinical depression, chemical disorders and more; people that have severe imbalances may need medication.)

Being happy, healthy and successful is easy – it's confronting your fears, limited thinking, self-image and taking the steps neccessary to BE happy, healthy and successful that is tough.

If you are in a relationship that requires medication or alcohol to live with – it's YOUR FAULT.

YOU are the one that is walking around on eggshells, ignoring the problem or too scared to go through the tough parts to deal with it.

I know – I have been in a relationship that was so horrible, I was depressed to the point where I hated myself.  

I have been so ashamed of something I had done that I allowed my businesses and career to suffer.  

I have – as a grown man, professional martial artist and all – allowed myself to be bullied by a co-worker, to the point I would avoid meetings and ignore my cell phone when it rang, in fear it was the bully.

And, I have been so unhappy with my career that I got so depressed – I could barely get out of bed.

Each and every one of those situations was MY RESPONSIBILITY.  My fault.  My decision to believe, think and act a certain way.  

And, in each and every situation, I was at the lowest right before the breakthrough came.  The breakthrough was when I got so sick and tired of being sick and tired that I said, "Dammit, I want "x" and I will not tolerate any more of this B.S. – and I am willing to do whatever it takes to get there."

Each and every time, it was very difficult and very painful – and each and every time, my life has become infinitely better.  Another level of happiness, good health, abundance financially, you name it.

But – to get there, I had to get down-and-dirty; good and miserable.  And then I had to grow a pair and face the pain that was going to come with growth.

HOW you react and take action in ANY situation puts you in control – you take back your power.

If you are in a place right now where you are trying to pretend everything is okay; medicating your way through your life, your career, your relationship – let me help you by saying that unless you "Get Tough" and find the guts, the stones, the backbone to walk right up to what you are afraid of and punch it in the nose – things aren't going to get any better.

You can do it.  You are strong enough.  Everything you need is within you right now…

It's up to you.  What are you going to do?

Take Back Your Power,

Sensei Harrison Huff